A few weeks ago, one of my friends said i worship too much on western culture. My spontaneous reaction was like "No way! What the hell are you talking about?" It took me a few minutes to think about it. So what if i really worship their culture? Of course, i didn't tell him what was in my mind.
As a chinese, i'm well aware of the weakness of ours, of course, what i mean is what happens around me, not the whole chinese society. Maybe, as i thought, chinese is too conservative.
Eventhough being 'open-minded' (as being practiced by the western people) is not acceptable by some people, as homosexual, equality are somehow not accepted by some people, it can develop in a good way. Just as i can see, the elders of chinese are always high in ego. They can't bear to be insulted, humiliated in any way. They can scold the children for their misbehaviour, or punish them for their mistakes, and force them to go to a way that their children might not like; but if it happen in the other way, that is, the parents are being scolded, yelled, forced, what will happen? I think i don't need to make any further explanation on that.
Another mystery about the elders is that they have never learned how to apologize, or that they would rather send gifts or in the other way but never to say "sorry". This is cited from a movie i watched some time ago: Why the adults always ask us to say sorry but they never do so even if they are wrong? I think nobody dare to ask their parents about this, because we were trained to "respect" the elders, though i would say this is just to prevent us from humiliating them.
Monday, June 1, 2009
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Why we are not abolishing exams yet?
A few years ago, you might think that a graduate should be respected, because they are knowledgeable. However, this concept doesn't seem to be appropriate these days. Why?
As we all know, the graduate needs to pass through a lot of challenges and tests, by reading a lot and studying very hard. Even though some might really studied very hard, they don't get the chances to enter a university because they might not score a good grade, which might because what he studied didn't come out in the exam. This shows that we still need luck to pass with flying colours, instead of study hard.
In these days, you don't need a lot of hard work or fortune to be a graduate, what really matters now is money. Yes, in deed, you need money to be a graduate, because there are so many private universities now, and they all need to have someone pass their exams, and hence their passing marks wouldn't be high, thus, all you need is just basic knowledge about the field that you study and anough education funds. If you don't like to work, and you still have money, you can even study some more degree courses until you are ready, and everyone will think that you must be brilliant to study so many courses.
That's bullshit, i know, and so do the exams. The exams don't represent your ability anymore these days, and maybe you are so good to score full marks in all papers, it just tell us that you are very good in memorizing, but what about your leadership? your co-operation skill? Aren't those the most important qualities in all careers?
Exam sucks!
As we all know, the graduate needs to pass through a lot of challenges and tests, by reading a lot and studying very hard. Even though some might really studied very hard, they don't get the chances to enter a university because they might not score a good grade, which might because what he studied didn't come out in the exam. This shows that we still need luck to pass with flying colours, instead of study hard.
In these days, you don't need a lot of hard work or fortune to be a graduate, what really matters now is money. Yes, in deed, you need money to be a graduate, because there are so many private universities now, and they all need to have someone pass their exams, and hence their passing marks wouldn't be high, thus, all you need is just basic knowledge about the field that you study and anough education funds. If you don't like to work, and you still have money, you can even study some more degree courses until you are ready, and everyone will think that you must be brilliant to study so many courses.
That's bullshit, i know, and so do the exams. The exams don't represent your ability anymore these days, and maybe you are so good to score full marks in all papers, it just tell us that you are very good in memorizing, but what about your leadership? your co-operation skill? Aren't those the most important qualities in all careers?
Exam sucks!
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Sad news
Last midnight i heard that the child of my mom's brother's had been taken away by his mother. I'm not very sure what happened in between them but i guessed that he was tricked by his ex-wife to sign the agreement letter. And i guess he is in grief now, to lose three children to his ex-wife.
Eventhough i'm not fond of him, but its still quite a sad news because the kid wanted to be with his father, and if he follows his mother, he has to stay with a stepfather that he never met before and he's a malay, that means the kid has to be an Muslim, eventhough both his parents are Buddhist. Thats not the biggest matter, but i wonder what those kids think to leave their father and being look after by another father...
Eventhough i'm not fond of him, but its still quite a sad news because the kid wanted to be with his father, and if he follows his mother, he has to stay with a stepfather that he never met before and he's a malay, that means the kid has to be an Muslim, eventhough both his parents are Buddhist. Thats not the biggest matter, but i wonder what those kids think to leave their father and being look after by another father...
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Demon in my house
Remember the cousin i wrote about? The kid that his parent divorced because his mother 'ran away' with another man? I said that he is going to move in my house next year, because he is going to study in my hometown, and his father is not capable of taking care of him nor paying a maid. However, this plan seems to be coming earlier than i expected, because he is here today, eventhough not staying here but he spent almost a whole day here.
He is a very active and talkative child, and that's why i don't like him. Since my mom has to take care of my nephew, which is still a baby, i have to spend time with him, listen to his child talk. At first, i think that's what an active child will do, but i got fed in a couple of hours. He is not only talkative and active (hyperactive, maybe), but the main problem is that he doesn't has the manner that a normal child should have, at least i think he should have. He always touch and play with my stuffs, and i have to put an eye on him the whole day so that nothing of mine will be 'anihilated'. When we was having our lunch together, he use his bare hand to take fish to his bowl! And when i was telling him not to do that again, he seemed like couldn't care less.
And he always talk something that i don't actually understand. He asked me, 'do you know who is xxx?' Who is he/she and why should i care? I mean i never met him before so how do i know someone that he knows? He also asked me that do you know how to do this do that? Why the hell should i know? He should be grateful that i didn't do something dangerous on him.
He is a very active and talkative child, and that's why i don't like him. Since my mom has to take care of my nephew, which is still a baby, i have to spend time with him, listen to his child talk. At first, i think that's what an active child will do, but i got fed in a couple of hours. He is not only talkative and active (hyperactive, maybe), but the main problem is that he doesn't has the manner that a normal child should have, at least i think he should have. He always touch and play with my stuffs, and i have to put an eye on him the whole day so that nothing of mine will be 'anihilated'. When we was having our lunch together, he use his bare hand to take fish to his bowl! And when i was telling him not to do that again, he seemed like couldn't care less.
And he always talk something that i don't actually understand. He asked me, 'do you know who is xxx?' Who is he/she and why should i care? I mean i never met him before so how do i know someone that he knows? He also asked me that do you know how to do this do that? Why the hell should i know? He should be grateful that i didn't do something dangerous on him.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Fate
Life is not what we can expect, and it always turn up to be against our mind. This might make our life very challeging and intriguing, but in fact it also makes our life miserable.
I worship the life to study in other countries, and i've been pursuing this dream since i was in primary school. My wish was about to come true when i knew that i can apply for an scholarship for foreign study, if i can get a good grade in spm. However, i failed. I realised that i cannot rely on scholarship only to achieve what i wanted. So, i spent a lot of time in research for all the scholarships and loans i can look for, but it turned up to be frustrating.
I went for an exhibition of UK tertiary education a couple of weeks ago, where a lot of universities of UK will send some delegations here to introduce their school, about tuition fees, living cost, scholarship, qualification...However, i found out that those universities don't provide full scholarship for international student, and the fees is too high for loan.
After that, i ask for some advice from my brother in law, about my study, but he told me that i don't have to search for foreign universities for a good salary, i should just study here. Its not i don't like the education here, its because i dream for this for so many years, i don't want to give up! Should i believe in fate?
I worship the life to study in other countries, and i've been pursuing this dream since i was in primary school. My wish was about to come true when i knew that i can apply for an scholarship for foreign study, if i can get a good grade in spm. However, i failed. I realised that i cannot rely on scholarship only to achieve what i wanted. So, i spent a lot of time in research for all the scholarships and loans i can look for, but it turned up to be frustrating.
I went for an exhibition of UK tertiary education a couple of weeks ago, where a lot of universities of UK will send some delegations here to introduce their school, about tuition fees, living cost, scholarship, qualification...However, i found out that those universities don't provide full scholarship for international student, and the fees is too high for loan.
After that, i ask for some advice from my brother in law, about my study, but he told me that i don't have to search for foreign universities for a good salary, i should just study here. Its not i don't like the education here, its because i dream for this for so many years, i don't want to give up! Should i believe in fate?
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
What makes genius a genius
It's the first time i write for almost a month, because i was quite busy with my end year exam. However, my hardwork doesn't seem to be fruitful, and i'm pretty sure that i won't get good grad for this year. Hope next year will be a lot better, or otherwise i really have to kill myself.
Anyway, i read the newspaper a few days ago that was about two genius, one from Taiwan and another one from China. Actually i don't really feel "impressed" to read about their achievements (both are students of Harvard), because i think that the genius we always admire about share some commons, and that are the reason why we can't be a genius like they do.
Firstly, they are always very rich, maybe not very, but at least none of them are poor. They never have to think about the money they spent in their study, unlike the people like me. We have to worry about the tuition fees, bus fare (i think they always have a car for them), expenditure on books (books might sound not that burdening but to be a genius like they do, we need a lot of crazy books that cost a lot), study materials (computer, cds, internet...)...Sure they can be a genius, cause they don't have to spent their mental energy on these issues!
Secondly, they always have genius parents. They always have parents that are lawyers, doctors, profesor...And sure they know how they teach their children very well. But look at us! Our parents are all uneducated or at most they had only finished their primary education!
Thirdly, they don't have to go through a lot of things that we have gone through. For example, work for pocket money. They've everything they needed, and hence don't need to work to get what they want. But we're different, like me, i have to work part time for almost 4 months last year so that i can pay my tuition fees!
There are a lot more reasons why we can't be a genius like them. So, they are actually not that respectable, because they are just normal people with a favourable condition to be genius. I can't say they didn't make any effort, but just they have the conditions to pay the effort, but we don't. If we are in the same background like they do, don't you think that we can do the same?
Anyway, i read the newspaper a few days ago that was about two genius, one from Taiwan and another one from China. Actually i don't really feel "impressed" to read about their achievements (both are students of Harvard), because i think that the genius we always admire about share some commons, and that are the reason why we can't be a genius like they do.
Firstly, they are always very rich, maybe not very, but at least none of them are poor. They never have to think about the money they spent in their study, unlike the people like me. We have to worry about the tuition fees, bus fare (i think they always have a car for them), expenditure on books (books might sound not that burdening but to be a genius like they do, we need a lot of crazy books that cost a lot), study materials (computer, cds, internet...)...Sure they can be a genius, cause they don't have to spent their mental energy on these issues!
Secondly, they always have genius parents. They always have parents that are lawyers, doctors, profesor...And sure they know how they teach their children very well. But look at us! Our parents are all uneducated or at most they had only finished their primary education!
Thirdly, they don't have to go through a lot of things that we have gone through. For example, work for pocket money. They've everything they needed, and hence don't need to work to get what they want. But we're different, like me, i have to work part time for almost 4 months last year so that i can pay my tuition fees!
There are a lot more reasons why we can't be a genius like them. So, they are actually not that respectable, because they are just normal people with a favourable condition to be genius. I can't say they didn't make any effort, but just they have the conditions to pay the effort, but we don't. If we are in the same background like they do, don't you think that we can do the same?
Monday, October 27, 2008
Totally conservative chinese family
It is always a mystery to me that why some families treat their son and daughter as friend, and willing to share things together; while some families treat their son and daughter like a boss and the employees. This always can be seen in the western families and the eastern families, and honestly i prefer former. My family is a typical chinese family, which means that they never treat me like a friend.
Obviously, chinese parents always have some ego inside of them, which cause them always have a gap between their son and themselves. They are very conservative, and always teach their kids to respect their elders, and this always came up very difficult when the youngers found out that the elders are wrong, and yet they to keep it as a secret as a sign of "respect". This is totally what i'm facing. I always have to keep my mouth shut so that i don't insult the elders, even though i'm right. What pissed me off the most is that sometimes i have to be blame even though i had never done anything wrong. For example, last time when i was in the living room with my family after meal, i start to play with my sister's son(about half year old), and my sister pull up a towel and accidetally drop the toy of my sister's son. She thought that i was the one who drop it because i was so close to it so she asked me to wash it. I knew she didn't know it's her fault to drop the toy, so i told her that she drop it, not me. Then, she said 'oh...', and my father suddenly raised his voice and said 'just do it when you are told to!', and my older brother added 'why should you talk so much even though she just asked you to do a thing?'. I was about to blow my head up at that moment! I was just trying to tell her that its not my fault and they all just blamed me for telling that!
Why the western people can be so nice to their son and daughter?
Obviously, chinese parents always have some ego inside of them, which cause them always have a gap between their son and themselves. They are very conservative, and always teach their kids to respect their elders, and this always came up very difficult when the youngers found out that the elders are wrong, and yet they to keep it as a secret as a sign of "respect". This is totally what i'm facing. I always have to keep my mouth shut so that i don't insult the elders, even though i'm right. What pissed me off the most is that sometimes i have to be blame even though i had never done anything wrong. For example, last time when i was in the living room with my family after meal, i start to play with my sister's son(about half year old), and my sister pull up a towel and accidetally drop the toy of my sister's son. She thought that i was the one who drop it because i was so close to it so she asked me to wash it. I knew she didn't know it's her fault to drop the toy, so i told her that she drop it, not me. Then, she said 'oh...', and my father suddenly raised his voice and said 'just do it when you are told to!', and my older brother added 'why should you talk so much even though she just asked you to do a thing?'. I was about to blow my head up at that moment! I was just trying to tell her that its not my fault and they all just blamed me for telling that!
Why the western people can be so nice to their son and daughter?
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